When we were a child, life was simpler. We knew what we wanted, and we just asked for them. But we can’t stay a child forever, can we? We all need to grow up and live in the real world. There will be competition, demands, and a lot of challenges.
Psychologist Angela Duckworth shares that “the ability to recover after failure is one of the most common traits of successful people.”
What do we do when our plans and dreams are getting far from reality? What do we do if we can’t get a hold of success?
Life can be challenging when you are a grown up. Sometimes, it doesn’t matter if you follow the rules. You listen to every advice from your parents, read every success stories, and do all the things needed, but it still doesn’t happen. Harvard psychologist Amy Cuddy says “too many people focus on the moonshot goal instead of the steps needed to get there.”
What are the little things we can do to climb the ladder of success?
Change Your Wallpaper
Today, everything seems to be either on our phones or computers. Change your wallpaper to something that you look forward to, like your dream house. Find a photo of a house you would want someday. Make it the wallpaper on your phone or your computer at work, so you’ll always be reminded of it.
People need visuals to stay focused. If we can see our goal, it is easier to direct our eyes to it. It’s like aiming with a gun. It is easier to shoot something that you see rather than shoot blindly.
Memorize an Affirmation
Affirmations are positive words that serve as inspiration. They help you in times of giving up because they may serve as reminders to go on. These statements could be words from famous people that inspire us.
Choose someone whose life inspires you. Find out the affirmation or words of wisdom that they use, so every time you feel like giving up, just remember them whispering in your ear and saying those words.
You can also memorize affirmations or inspirational words and say them in front of a mirror before going to work. This way, you will be motivated by it throughout the day. Try to practice reciting a statement daily.
Think Like a Kid
Sometimes, to bring out the best in you, you have to bring out the kid in you. When we grow up, we start to have a better understanding of how life works, scientifically and philosophically. We become cynical that we don’t do things that we’re not sure is going to work.
Bring out the kid in you. Ask yourself, “What would the 8-year-old version of me do?” When we were kids, we were always happy and confident. Some would even wear a cape and climb the roof, thinking he could fly if he just believes. It doesn’t mean you have to go up there and jump! It means to have a heart like that of a kid, always seeing the positive and the good despite the odds.
Sometimes, the little things matter more, and being serious doesn’t help. We need to pause and change our perspective in small ways that could help us in big ways.
“With the right mindset, it may be possible to handle challenges better and pursue success without getting down on yourself,” said Catherine Moore, Psychologist, MBA.