[You Can Still Succeed]
One of the most devastating events that could happen in a lifetime is losing your better half, primarily when you have not yet achieved your goals. “The impact of bereavement and grief over the loss of a loved one causes most people to grieve and mourn. It is a mistake to set a time limit for so-called “normal” bereavement,” says Clifford N. Lazarus Ph.D. How are you supposed to move on and continue with your plans? This kind of tragedy can mark a turning point in your life where you can choose to drown in grief or rise. Losing your spouse doesn’t make the world stop spinning. It will continue to do so no matter what, and that’s how life is.
Words Of Encouragement After Losing A Spouse:
- “Those we love never truly leave us, Harry. There are things that death cannot touch.”
― Jack Thorne, Harry Potter, and the Cursed Child
If you lose your spouse whom you loved, the world would seem dull, and you’re not sure how to go on, but do remember this: Love is a gift, not all receives. Some were, but they never embraced it that’s why they never loved at all. If you got the chance to share a little time with someone you truly loved, grieve, but never stop living. You are the continuation of his life, so if you genuinely loved him, make your life worthy of his memories.
- “Because death is the only thing that could have ever kept him from you.”
― Ally Carter, Out of Sight, Out of Times
Sometimes, some things happen that are hard to understand such as the death of a spouse. It crumbles your whole life, and you tend to be mad at the world. You feel cheated and abandoned, but naturally, life starts at birth and ends in death. It’s just a matter of when. Be grateful for is you are one of the lucky ones to have loved at all. Take your loss as an opportunity to open another door. Sometimes, love is something that keeps us from reaching our goals, and we refuse to see that we have to lose someone dear to us for us to be the person we ought to be.
“Right after a death, all cultures provide a circle of loving others—family and friends—who surround the widower,” says Robert Berezin M.D.
- “Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live.”
― Norman Cousins
Don’t bury your light along with your loved one. Yes, it is like stepping into the darkness as the pain can crush your soul, but you can always step out. Make yourself realize that sooner or later, you have to move on and live. Why not make it today?
- “Memories… let them fill your mind, warm your heart, and lead you through.”
Let the love you shared lead you through what you initially planned together. He may be physically absent, but you know his heart. You know his desires, and you have the power to make still them happen. Let the love you once shared a guide you.
- “The only way to get over death is by seeing it as a life completed, instead of a life interrupted.”
Cry as hard as you can. Grieve because you are never going to see your spouse physically, but remember that he lived, and no matter how untimely he had gone, he lived. His life was complete, and that’s how far he could only go. The rest of the journey is up to you. Make the efforts of his existence count and use your life to continue reaching your goals.
You are invalidating the existence of your spouse if you think that losing him is like the end of life for you as well. Have the courage to move on and continue with life. The only difference is you have to face the battle alone, and you can think of it as an opportunity for you to be stronger. “So if you’re grieving, know that you’ll most likely return to a place of psychological wellbeing and a “new normal” in time—but the key word here is “new”, says psychotherapist Leah Royden.