Life can be unforgivably harsh sometimes. It can make you believe like you are slowly sinking in quicksand, and there is no one around to help. It can make you think like you are losing control of everything and that letting go will be the best thing to do. It will suck, and it will hurt. But here’s the thing, you already survived 100 percent of the hard times you experienced in your life.
Does that make you a healthy person? Absolutely, yes! But keep in mind that you are still vulnerable to these hard times.
According to Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT, “Recovery requires us to accept life on its own terms, to accept our powerlessness and our limitations and to accept those of others.”
Nobody said that life is going to be easy. It will knock you down, it will make you feel small and weak, and it will do that over and over again until you are strong enough to withstand its blows. But while life can be pretty unfair sometimes, keeping up with it is not impossible. There are healthier ways you can do to cope with these hard times. Listed below are some tips you can follow to keep yourself going when you feel like giving up.
- Acknowledge the Situation & Accept Your Feelings
All human emotions are valid. When times get rough, it is better to acknowledge, accept, and keep them out in the open. Don’t ignore or box them in because, at some point, all of those emotions will find their way out and form an explosion that will leave the people around you heartbroken. Acceptance is the first key to healing, and by acknowledging your situation, your mind will be more precise, and you will be able to think of a plausible solution to your problems.
- Always Remind Yourself That Everything Is Temporary
It’s cliché to remind yourself that everything has its own time, but it’s true. Whatever your situation is, you will get through it. Of course, it will hurt, and you will cry or fall many times, but that is just how humans deal with things. Sometimes you only have to do your best and wait it out. Treat it like a storm, intense and destructive. However, it will also be temporary. Light and happiness will find their way back into your life. You just have to be strong and trust that nothing lasts forever whether it’s good or bad.
- Take Things One Step At A Time
“In life, we are each dealt a different hand of hardships and blessings. It would appear that life is not fair in her dealings, but I believe we are each given the exact hand we need to learn the lessons of our unique, psycho-spiritual journey,” according to Joyce Marter. Don’t rush to fix things because chances are you will only make them worse. Do what you can today and know that it is okay. Don’t push yourself to do things you are not comfortable doing. It doesn’t matter how long it takes for you to feel okay again. What matters is that you don’t give up. Even if it’s just baby steps, just keep going and eventually, you will get through it.
These are just three of the several ways you can keep up with life when life itself doesn’t want to keep up with you. Always remember them, and things will be okay. Well, maybe not now, but soon enough, they will be.
“Recognizing the importance of wellness, reflecting on what your wellness encompasses, and tending to your wellness are all powerful preventative methods to improve your mental health and overall well-being,” says Shainna Ali Ph.D., LMHC.