Since you hold your life and write the stories in it, other opinions don’t matter. That is because every struggle you face, there is always a decision you have to make. But not all of those are going to be beneficial. At some point, almost half of it can cause even more damage to the situation. There are times that even though you think you are doing well with others, your unintentional repeated hurtful behavior counts. “People with personality disorders can have an uncanny effect on you, which is to say if you have a personality disorder you have a really potent expectation about how someone else will behave, usually like a son of a bitch,” Dr. Jordan B. Peterson says. But do not worry because it doesn’t mean you’re a terrible person, just human. Self-awareness will help you get better. But before you try and fix yourself, you need first to understand the psychology’s warning signs of a person becoming toxic.
Can’t Seem To Maintain A Healthy Relationship
You can internalize and wonder why your relationships often end up in a dump. Yes, it takes both individuals to handle it. However, if it is not working and not contributing anything to both of your development, it might have something to do with toxicity. It might be you or your partner who’s at fault. Well, toxic relationships are not always abusive, controlling, and manipulative. Usually, issues stem out from over-analysis. Meaning, those less confident individuals who are in a relationship are more likely to expect rejection from their loved ones. There is no honesty in what one truly feels. In this case, over exaggeration wins. That is because the more a person thinks the relationship will fall, the more it will.
Can’t Trust People And Drain Them Out
It is an excellent attitude to accept that not everyone likes you. However, when you start thinking that people around you, such as friends and families, are only enemies in disguise, there surely is something wrong. It is as if your head is too busy making everything a competition. If it is a friendly one, then yes it can become a contributing factor for growth. But if it is just something you thought as a way to drain people out of your life, then you have a problem. There will be a buildup of obsession over the idea of surpassing people all out. With this mentality, expect to lose emotional stability because there is no doubt no one is going to be there to support your emotional and mental needs.
Asks For Forgiveness Only Once In A Blue Moon
In psychology, experts believe that toxic individuals always play the victim card. Meaning, these people don’t ever take accountability for their damaging actions. So if you are undergoing a hard time swallowing pride and often ignore the value of apologizing, then all can agree that you are becoming a toxic person. It is problematic because this attitude significantly sabotages relationships and social connections. When you don’t think you need to say sorry even if you have done something wrong, you miss out on understanding others. That attitude makes people want to stay away from you. With that, you deprive yourself of emotional and mental growth.
Issues Are Flooding Everywhere
Always bringing drama to the table is a significant red flag of becoming a toxic individual. These include the habit of spreading rumors and starting fights within the group. When you think that telling grandiose stories are more important than your friends and family’s feelings, then you are in trouble. You can say that the results of those actions will not matter. But the consistency of the habit of hurting the ones you love and leaving people behind is the worst attitude someone would ever have. If you only focus on what you feel, need, and want, you will never deserve to have it all. There is no chance people will like you, stand up for you, and continue to love you without regret.
“The reason most people find happiness to be elusive is that they don’t do the things that they need to in order to experience mental wellness,” says Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D.
Too Dependent On Social Media
You probably feel great when a lot of people like your photos and posts on Instagram and Facebook. Psychology believes that it has become one of the great contributors of self-confidence. This was also mentioned in Babble and SheKnows. However, when your self-image becomes a top priority than being emotionally and mentally present, it becomes an issue. As psychologist Eric B. Weiser states – social networks may create or reinforce narcissistic tendencies because they serve primarily as self-promotional platforms. It makes you toxic because you begin to rely on an audience validation due to its social media ego boost effect. The idea of that is you become dependent on what other people say. You begin to focus more on what others tell you to do rather than making critical decisions for yourself. You lose control.
If you believe these traits are becoming yours, then pause, think, and evaluate.