Midlife crisis? I never thought of it until I realized I had it. I had to look it up on Google, and to my relief, I am not alone! There are tons of people on the planet right now that’s experiencing the same thing I do. At first, I thought I was just lonely, but how can I? I have everything I need. I have a family, a kind husband, two beautiful kids, and they both go to a decent school. We own our place downtown, and I have a job! How can I? ‘The mid-life crisis’, like many a psychological and psychoanalytical term before it (inferiority complex, extravert, Freudian slip) has entered the general vocabulary and is now used by many folks to describe any quirky behaviour by middle aged people,” according to Ian Stuart-Hamilton Ph.D.
Recent studies show that many people find it difficult to welcome some changes in their lives. These individuals want everything to stay the same because it makes them feel comfortable. At the same time, it frightens them to try something new. They think that if they decide to step of their comfort zones, their worlds may start to crumble down or break into tiny little pieces.
According to Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W., “Ready or not, we all go through numerous transitions in our lives – living high school to go to college or work, changing jobs, getting married, having children.”
When we were a child, life was simpler. We knew what we wanted, and we just asked for them. But we can’t stay a child forever, can we? We all need to grow up and live in the real world. There will be competition, demands, and a lot of challenges.
Psychologist Angela Duckworth shares that “the ability to recover after failure is one of the most common traits of successful people.”
What do we do when our plans and dreams are getting far from reality? What do we do if we can’t get a hold of success?
When we become adults, we become responsible for all the life choices we make. Every decision either takes us a step toward success or a step backward. Subconsciously, we make choices based on our life experiences, our foundation as a child, and everything that has been formed inside us when we were kids.
Life can be unforgivably harsh sometimes. It can make you believe like you are slowly sinking in quicksand, and there is no one around to help. It can make you think like you are losing control of everything and that letting go will be the best thing to do. It will suck, and it will hurt. But here’s the thing, you already survived 100 percent of the hard times you experienced in your life.
The age bracket of 20-29 can be some of the most exciting years of your life. Imagine, you are old enough not to be considered as a kid anymore, and you are still young enough to have the same wisdom and knowledge that full-fledged adults do. While some people can quite figure out what they want to be in life, most of us use this era to take things into consideration. This is the period where we experiment and decide what career or path will define the rest of our lives. Sure, it puts us under a lot of pressure and stress but these times are also delightful and full of adventure. And though we only get to be in our 20s for nine years, we must not let life’s pressures prevent us from making these years as memorable as possible.
“Remaining resilient helps make sound decisions, think clearly, creatively and maintain the persistence needed to find a career”, according to Lubna Somjee, Ph.D.