Realizing Your Worth

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My mother gave me a clipping of a features article that she cut from the newspaper at work. There were no cell phones at that time since it was in the early ’90s and the news was delivered through a paper. The headline was RYAN CAYABYAB IS LOOKING FOR TALENTED SINGERS TO FORM SMOKEY MOUNTAIN 2.

 

It Was The Opportunity Of A Lifetime

 

I was very excited because first off, Ryan Cayabyab was the “man” if you wanted to get into the singing business, and Smokey Mountain was the “IT” group in our country. Of course, this was not in the United States since I grew up in Davao City, Philippines.

 

Let’s say for comparison, Ryan Cayabyab was the “Marvin Hamlisch” of the US (the multi-awarded composer loved by Ms. Barbra Streisand), and Smokey Mountain was “The Hanson” of the Philippines. The opportunity was truly enormous, and at 13 years old, my mom was handing me that clipping. She knew I loved to sing and it was like her saying that she approves of me auditioning for the part.

 

I Prepared Myself For That Chance

 

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And so, I equipped myself for roughly a week and practiced “Wind Beneath My Wings,” as sung by Ms. Bette Midler. I was confident that I got the song pretty well. You see, I came from a family of singers. My father used to be a singing champion in our city, while my mother didn’t sing, her sisters were local professional singers. One of my aunts was a jazz singer and a regular every Friday at the city’s posh steak restaurant. She serenaded VIP’s and politicians with her sultry voice. The other one was more successful, and had a singing career in Manila with a country-renowned composer – yes, the one and only, Mr. Cayabyab.

 

Anyway, I was ready, and my mind was made up. My godmother dressed me up and let me borrow her clothes. I can’t forget the white silk sleeveless blouse and long wrap-around skirt in an abstract design of white and blue colors. She also lent me her brown loafers and braided my long hair.

 

Night Of The Performance

 

I got on the shortlist. Out of 1,187 teens who auditioned for the part, only thirty remained. I was one of the lucky 30 who got in.

 

It is one of the most memorable nights of my life because Ryan Cayabyab was in front of me, and believe it or not, my voice CROAKED. Yes, you read that right. I croaked. It was due to nervousness (I keep telling myself that reason), and when I sang the first note, I went out of tune and croaked big time. It was awful! But with that mistake, the best thing happened to me.

 

Let me push back a bit and tell the whole story of that specific event.

 

The assistant called my name and the names of nineteen other kids. We went into a massive hall, and of course, we lined up, and there he was, right in front of us, Mr. Ryan Cayabyab. The first person sang her song, and I think I was number 13. While waiting for my turn, I imagined my young self as a guest singer in “Ryan, Ryan, Musikahan” which means “Ryan’s Music.” (This was the name of his music show on TV.)

 

Of course, that was a perfect dream. I couldn’t tell him that my aunt was a regular on his show, that’s why I know I have a chance. If my aunt can do it, so can I, right?

 

Anyway, my turn came, and I made the ultimate mistake. Instead of singing the song from the beginning, I jumped to the chorus and bam! There was no wind beneath my wings, so to speak!

 

What made me do it? I don’t know! I think I got insecure when I heard two of my schoolmates who also auditioned. One of them was Julie Fernandez (angelic voice) and Mitch (forgot her last name, she was in a band). I decided to up my game by singing the high part, the chorus, which turned out to be a disaster.

 

A Blessing In Disguise

 

I stopped singing, and Mr. Cayabyab looked straight at me. All I could say was – I’m so embarrassed, Mr. Cayabyab. I’m sorry. I did prepare for this. It’s just I was too nervous hearing everyone sing and well, singing for you; it’s overwhelming.

 

Tears were starting to fall on my cheeks, but then a miracle happened – Ryan Cayabyab spoke to me! I was told after the audition by the assistant that Mr. Cayabyab never talked to any of the auditionees except for me!

 

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“Kim, sing again. From the first stanza.”

 

I managed a weak ok, and then, I started singing. (Quoting the song “Wind Beneath My Wings”)

 

It must have been cold there in my shadow,

To never have sunlight on your face.

You were content to let me shine, that’s your way.

You always walked a step behind.

So I was the one with all the glory,

While you were the one with all the strength.

A beautiful face without a name for so long.

A beautiful smile to hide the pain.

 

And then, another miracle! Ryan Cayabyab, the composer, conductor, producer and recipient of the most prestigious music awards in the Philippines, SANG WITH ME! He never did such as any other person in the room!

 

(Quoting the song “Wind Beneath My Wings”)

 

Did you ever know that you’re my hero,

And everything I would like to be?

I can fly higher than an eagle,

For you are the wind beneath my wings.

 

We did a duet, and by this time, my heart was swelling with pride. The error, the croaking, and the embarrassment were all worth it! At least, I was able to experience singing with a legend like him.

 

What Happened Next?

 

I didn’t make the cut. The part went to Julie, my schoolmate, but she declined it and formed a band. She did become famous, of course. Did it hurt my ego not winning the part? No, absolutely not. In all honesty, I can say that.

 

It was a fulfillment for me too, in a way, because Julie was once second place in a singing competition wherein I got the gold medal. I know that I have it and with these validations –I beat Julie before, and Mr. Cayabyab singing with me – it’s more than enough.

 

I was and is talented. I know that I have it, and no one can take it from me.

 

Did I Become A Professional Singer?

 

No. I am currently a writer, and a mom of five kids, one of them is a theatre actress and singer. I had my time, and I made my decisions. There are no regrets there, whatsoever.

 

I guess what I’m trying to say is that the event with Ryan Cayabyab made me realize that I have so many innate talents and that if I harnessed it, I could have been a superstar. Right now, I’m just happy to get a score of 100 in a videoke challenge. Seriously! And maybe, a permanent feeling of self-worth and self-confidence because of that particular night.

Teenager And Pregnant – But God Had Plans For Me

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I wished it was all a nightmare for me on that one damaging evening in October of 1988. The night was cold and crisp, and I just got out of my shift at the local diner where I used to work. Regularly, my dad or older brother would pick me up, and we’d walk home together since my clock ended at 10. But that scarring night, my dad also had to work late. My brother was at home looking after our 3-year old sister who was sick. He couldn’t leave her behind.

 

And so, without reservations in my heart, I told them that I’d be fine to walk home alone. Anyway, it wasn’t that late, and I lived five blocks away. The walk wasn’t that far, and the stars looked beautiful. It was a bright evening. I even assured them that I’d be ok. Oh, how wrong I was back then to think that in five blocks from work to home, nothing bad would happen to me.

 

I was so near that I could almost smell my momma’s chicken pastel. Never in my mind that I would be in danger so close to home. I’ve been walking that path for the last two years, and everything was good, but that night in October, my innocence was wrecked.

 

It all happened so slowly, and almost everything wasn’t a blur at all. Someone hit me from behind, and I fell. Two guys grabbed me and tied me up. One of them had a car, and we drove for a few minutes to a deserted car garage place. In there, three devils disguised as human beings took turns in raping me. I screamed. I begged. I asked for help. I did everything, but they paid no attention to my cry. After what it seemed was an eternity, one of them thanked me and left me for dead.

 

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God had bigger plans for me, and he kept me alive. I was eighteen, kidnapped, raped (I was a virgin, by the way), and stabbed almost to death, but my creator gave me air so that I could still breathe. Someone found me in the gutter, almost dead, and I was hospitalized for nearly three weeks. After two weeks out of the hospital, we found out that I was pregnant.

 

My first instinct was to have the child adopted. Yes, I would freely give “it” away. I don’t want anything to do with “it.” I was so angry at them and disgusted at myself. My life was ruined by that night, and there’s a baby to remind me of all the trauma I went through? No way! I want it gone. If I could abort it, I would have done the deed. But God had another plan for me. For us.

 

When it was time to deliver the baby, I was still bent on giving “it” away. He was out in roughly an hour, and the social worker told me that I have three days with him. The paper works had to be sorted out, and a young couple would adopt him, 500 miles away from me.

 

Did I give him away? In three days, I saw that what I had in my hands was an angel. He was my son, and he came out of me. I was so stupid for thinking that he ruined my life. How can I push my son away? And so, I did something selfish, and I kept him.

 

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It wasn’t easy at all. Some days, my depression would kick in, and I’d remember every single thing. But there were days when hope would fill my heart, and there was a smile on my face.

 

I healed, and everything turned out beautifully for our family and me. Someone was brave enough to love a broken woman like me and accept my son. My husband was one of the best things that ever happened to me, apart from my son. He is now successful in his field and has made me so proud. Unlike his “sperm donor,” my son became a good man. I thank God every single day for keeping me alive and touching me on that specific moment when I decided to keep him.

 

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From the journal of Anna Christie, New York, NY

Coming Out Triumphant From An Abusive Relationship

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When you are in an abusive relationship, you are most often emotionally broken and drained of your self-confidence, not only half-empty but perhaps with only drops left before you lose the empowered woman that you once were. However, there are coping strategies that can help you deal with the verbal and emotional abuse in marriage or any relationship. You can slowly learn to manage your partner’s manipulative behavior and soon regain your power over your life.

 

Here is a list of tips that have been used by abuse survivors and have been proven to be effective in healing and success.

 

  • Start Your Statements With ‘I.’ In communicating with your partner, own what you say. Speak to your partner in a civil and decent manner, but do not in any way respond to threats, demands, and allegations. You can assert what you want to say, like, “I will not allow you to yell at me while I’m inside the car with you,” or, “I can’t take your rude behavior anymore, and I won’t tolerate it any longer.” You must let your abusive partner know that you know how to protect and take care of yourself.

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  • Draw Your Boundaries. Just as your partner has his boundaries, you must have them too. Boundaries are what keep you safe and sane. It’s how you know that things have gone overboard when your partner (or any person for that matter) has crossed over the lines that you have drawn for your privacy. You may be responsible for keeping your partner or your family happy and healthy, but you must keep yourself safe and happy too. So if it feels like you’ve been drained of your energy, time, and effort for others, it’s time that you spread that list of boundaries and let them know you need your space as well.

 

  • Don’t Make Excuses For Your Abusive Partner. Initially, you might make some kind of excuse for his behavior. “Perhaps if I will show him more love, he’ll change.” “Maybe I need to be a little more patient with him.” If your partner is an abuser, there is nothing you can do to change that unless he changes for himself. The best thing you can do for both of you is to break the cycle, end the usual sequence, and leave.

 

  • Feed Your Soul With Good Things. Read your favorite books and listen to your favorite music. Go to the beach and contemplate about your life. Feed your soul with the good stuff to replace the negativity that you are getting from your abusive relationship. Find time to feel self-love and self-appreciation. Only then will you be able to have the strength to win over the abuse.

 

  • Don’t Let The Abuse Rust You Out. When a faucet drips today and it can be fixed with a simple tape, that’s great. But if the damage of the faucet is so big that the drip keeps going on and on for a month or a year, this will soon rust the pipes and it will be impossible to keep the water from dripping or gushing out from the faucet. Your abusive partner can do this to you – rust you out by his continuing demands, ridicules, blames, and allegations. Leave while you can still be fixed.

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You have the power to come out triumphant from your abusive relationship. Being a victim today doesn’t mean you’ll stay a victim for the rest of your life. Regain your power by first loving yourself, realizing the strength you have, and believing that you have the power to be happy.

 

 

 

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Forgiving Others Empowers You

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Forgiving someone is probably one of the hardest things we can do. It is a selfless act that requires compassion, which is why we should try to learn it. Your most hated person may not deserve your forgiveness, but the point is that you don’t deserve to be trapped in revenge and resentment, and ultimately damage our mental and emotional well-being.

Forgiving Others At Work

We’ve had our fair share of co-workers or bosses who were rude and demanding. Some are there just to exist to annoy you or destroy your reputation by telling fake stories about you. I’ve had the awful experience of getting bullied by my boss a few years back. He would shout at me to get my attention and ask me for a cup of coffee even though I was doing something important. His feedback about my work was usually, “You did terribly,” or, “Was that your best?” I couldn’t even argue or question his feedback.

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Silently, I would forgive him for everything, and I built strength and resilience through forgiveness. Eventually, I told him how much I appreciated his efforts to challenge me and help me become better, and for the opportunity to work with his team. And then I left the company. I left with more confidence in myself and more strength to face even the worst challenges.

Forgiving From The Heart – Not From The Mind

The first purpose for forgiving my boss was to free myself from the darkness that hatred and resentment can do to one’s heart. I refused to be a slave to someone’s unreal opinion of who I am. I also wanted to show others that conflict and other difficult situations can be fixed through forgiveness.

If I had thought about the act of forgiving my boss, I think I wouldn’t have been able to do it. I would have thought, “Why would I simply forgive him for allowing me to think negatively about myself and hurting me this way?” That is exactly why one should not use the mind to forgive. Forgiveness must not come from the mind but the heart – because it is in your heart that you feel the self-love and compassion. What my boss did to me was my boss’ behavior, not mine. Who knows? My forgiveness might be a way for him to learn the value of forgiveness.

Forgiveness Is A Choice To Be Empowered

Victor Frankl states that man has a choice, despite the most dreadful circumstances, to forgive to liberate himself.

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In any kind of workplace, conflict cannot be avoided because people commit errors and mistakes. It is vital to accept your misgivings if you are at fault. It is healthy for a company to encourage its employees, particularly its leaders, to be strong enough to find ways to forgive and create strict boundaries that help avoid repeated violations. Leaders, like executives and company heads, who show responsibility and the ability to forgive are most likely capable of creating a better and more constructive future for their team and the rest of the company as a whole.

 

 

 

 

How Productive People Overcome Stress

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These days, it is almost impossible to be a successful professional and not experience moderate to severe stress at frequent points of your life. Yes, all successful people suffer from it (even those who aren’t successful). It’s just that some have mastered the skill of dealing with and overcome stress.

Below is a list of some known effective strategies for overcoming stress when it strikes you at home, in the workplace, or just about anywhere you may be.

  • Learn To Be Compassionate With Yourself. When you learn to see your mistakes with understanding and compassion, you become less pressured, less anxious, and less depressed. Ultimately, people who typically show self-compassion are more productive than those who aren’t. Most people think that they need to push themselves too much to be the best, but in the long run, it turns out that they are wrong, and they don’t perform their best when they do not cut themselves some slack. Having self-compassion when you’re at your worst can tremendously reduce stress and in fact, improve your performance.

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  • Don’t Break Your Routines. We usually tend to be stressed when we are nearing a deadline or asked to preside an emergency meeting, or about to talk to the head of your company. The mental tension is overwhelming! But productive people claim that you can reduce the tension and the decisions you have to make when you stick to your routines. If you have a daily routine, stick to it, so that you can have room for the new events and decisions you have to make when they come. If you’re used to wearing blue in a meeting, don’t break this routine by having to decide if you should wear red or gray. If you’re used to eating a tuna salad for lunch, order tuna salad before talking with your boss. At least that’s all you need to be ready for, and you won’t have to use your brain to decide about what to eat.
  • Always Have A Little Time Doing What You Love. When you do something you love, it doesn’t add to the stress, but it replenishes you, right? It adds energy to your day, no matter how much effort you need to put into it (it can be effortless too). If you regularly go to the gym, walking on the treadmill for 20 minutes can be effortless routine to you, but perhaps if you run with your favorite music on, it’ll make the activity more interesting, and you learn to love going to the gym more. When you are more energized, you can use that energy to prepare yourself for more challenges.
  • Be An Optimist, Not A Perfectionist. When you have a perfectionist attitude, you tend to compare your work and your personality to others. When this happens, you begin to doubt your capacity to do things, creating more stress and anxiety. You don’t have to be perfect to be productive. You can think optimistically, learn the get-better outlook so that you compare yourself to no one but the previous version of you. How did you fair today? Are you better compared to how fair you did yesterday? This is one of the best ways to improve and motivate yourself to become better than you were.

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Try applying some or all of these techniques for overcoming stress, and you’ll experience real changes in the home, workplace, and all aspects of your life. These have worked wonders for many successful and productive professionals. Hope they work for you too!

 

 

 

Achieving Productivity Despite Stressful Situations

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Sometimes, even though we strive to do the best that we can to get to the top, grab that bonus, or achieve that promotion, we just have other important events coming up, family matters to attend to, and personal situations that need our time. No matter how much we have convinced ourselves that we are strong and resilient to negativity, the stress just gets the best of us.

But please don’t go berserk if and when this happens to you, because almost all studies have proven that stress is inevitable, but the effects that it can have on us aren’t. There are always ways that we can practice so that we don’t see stress as a threat but as, a challenge that can only help us become better, if not the best, version of ourselves.

Understand The Stress You Are In. If you are stressed because you’re about to be interviewed for a job, think about the opportunities for career advancement. If you’re anxious about a presentation, think about how the experience will help you improve in terms of interpersonal skills. Don’t think about how stressful the activity is but also include its purpose and its positive outcomes.

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Don’t Overwork The Brain. Studies suggest that when the brain is loaded with too much information, it becomes difficult for it to see the positive aspects, so don’t overwork it. For example, after you’ve showered, eaten, and dressed for work, you then get into your car to go to your office. Don’t turn on the radio yet. Or if you can’t resist listening to music in the car, just put it on low volume, so your brain won’t get ‘shocked’ with the quiet environment it was in while you were getting ready. Think of your brain if you want to see more of the positives in your life.

Get Enough Sleep And Don’t Starve Yourself. A popular acronym for four barriers to success is HALT: hungry, angry, lonely, tired. When you don’t get the sleep that you need, you lose the energy to get up and be excited to work efficiently. If you starve yourself, your sugar levels will drop, causing your mood to go haywire as well. So try to get a goodnight’s rest, eat when you’re hungry, don’t panic, and do talk to someone when you feel lonely or depressed. All these will go a long way to combatting stress negativity.

Project Success. When you’re up against a challenge in life, don’t think about how difficult it’s going to be. Think of it as another opportunity to achieve success, just as you did when you have succeeded so many times in your life. Remember that pessimism is a surefire way to be closer to failure.

Don’t Start With Zero. Experts suggest that for the brain to be stimulated to do things enthusiastically, you train it to recognize the progress you’ve done so far. For example, you have so much to do today that you don’t know how or where to start. But you’ve eaten your breakfast, dressed up, and have already made a few phone calls, so that’s progress for the day, right? Jot that down. This somehow speeds your brain up, and you are encouraged to accomplish the rest of your goals.

Final Thoughts

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Stress is not something that we should be afraid of but a challenge to be faced with resilience, positivity, patience, and some of these effective strategies that you learn to live by. With these weapons, you can be sure to achieve productivity if you want to, when you want to!

 

 

 

How To Survive A Divorce

There are many things that you will experience the moment you file a divorce case against your spouse. Even if you are the one who filed the petition to end the marriage in court, you cannot deny to yourself that a part of you is hurting. Do not worry nor fret because what you are feeling right now is only typical for someone who has gone through a complicated relationship. According to a therapist, many people end up getting hurt even if they are the ones who initiated the divorce.

 

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If you feel or think like you are going through a hard time right now because of the separation with your loved one, make sure that you read this article. We are going to talk or discuss the different ways on how you can survive this heart-breaking moment of your life. Here are the things that you must know:

 

Be Real

 

The first step that you must do is to keep everything real. As much as possible, learn how to accept the shortcomings and failures not only of your ex-partner but also those that you are guilty of. Remember that the marriage ended for a reason. Learn how to accept all those reasons so that you can quickly move on from the broken relationship. Everyone knows that the process is not going to be easy, but as long as you have the will to move on with your life, everything is going to be easy.

 

Forgive Your Ex

 

One of the things that you must also do at this point is to find it in your heart to forgive your ex-spouse. As much as possible, learn how to offer forgiveness even if the other person is not asking for it. Take note that the more you hate your ex, the more power he has over you. In the long run, it can only make the situation worse. If you do not want him to affect you in so many ways, it is best if you will forgive your ex-lover. Remember that having grudge or hatred in your heart can make you unlovable too. As such, you will also find it challenging to get back on the right track.

 

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Think of Your Kids

 

Take note that while the relationship has already ended, it is not yet the end of the world. You must constantly remind yourself that there are still children in the marriage whom you need to care. Make sure that you never forget your kids because they need you even after the divorce. This is the time in their lives when they want to feel that you love them more than anything in the world. Do not forget your responsibilities with your children. Otherwise, they will end up getting hurt in the long run. At the same time, they may also seek comfort from other people who can only have a bad influence over them. If you do not want your children to rebel against you, make sure to find time with them. Dedicate your time and attention into making them feel better at all times even if their parents have broken up.

 

Focus On Your Future

 

Another thing that you must always take into consideration is to look forward instead of staying in the past. You must always keep in mind that there is still a lot of things to enjoy about life after your divorce. Focus on the good stuff instead of walking down the memory lane. Take note that you will only end up hurting yourself. When you start or learn to let go of the past, you will have a brighter future. Remember that what is at stake here is your future. If you continue to refrain from moving, nothing good will ever happen in your life. You will always be stressed or anxious if you will continue to let the past affect you. Be smart enough to learn when to forget your hurtful past.

 

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Conclusion

 

As already mentioned above, there are tons of ways that you can do to move on from a failed marriage. You need to believe in yourself. Give yourself a chance at happiness. Look at the divorce as an opportunity for you to start over again. Keep in mind that what matters in this life is your perspective. Continue to surround yourself with the right people, and you will be surprised at how easy everything can be. Do not give up right away just because things are hard. There is something good that will come out from your current situation.

 

Psychology’s Warning Signs Of A Person Becoming Toxic

Since you hold your life and write the stories in it, other opinions don’t matter. That is because every struggle you face, there is always a decision you have to make. But not all of those are going to be beneficial. At some point, almost half of it can cause even more damage to the situation. There are times that even though you think you are doing well with others, your unintentional repeated hurtful behavior counts. But do not worry because it doesn’t mean you’re a terrible person, just human. Self-awareness will help you get better. But before you try and fix yourself, you need first to understand the psychology’s warning signs of a person becoming toxic.

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Can’t Seem To Maintain A Healthy Relationship

You can internalize and wonder why your relationships often end up in a dump. Yes, it takes both individuals to handle it. However, if it is not working and not contributing anything to both of your development, it might have something to do with toxicity. It might be you or your partner who’s at fault. Well, toxic relationships are not always abusive, controlling, and manipulative. Usually, issues stem out from over-analysis. Meaning, those less confident individuals who are in a relationship are more likely to expect rejection from their loved ones. There is no honesty in what one truly feels. In this case, over exaggeration wins. That is because the more a person thinks the relationship will fall, the more it will.

Can’t Trust People And Drain Them Out

It is an excellent attitude to accept that not everyone likes you. However, when you start thinking that people around you, such as friends and families, are only enemies in disguise, there surely is something wrong. It is as if your head is too busy making everything a competition. If it is a friendly one, then yes it can become a contributing factor for growth. But if it is just something you thought as a way to drain people out of your life, then you have a problem. There will be a buildup of obsession over the idea of surpassing people all out. With this mentality, expect to lose emotional stability because there is no doubt no one is going to be there to support your emotional and mental needs.

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Asks For Forgiveness Only Once In A Blue Moon

In psychology, experts believe that toxic individuals always play the victim card. Meaning, these people don’t ever take accountability for their damaging actions. So if you are undergoing a hard time swallowing pride and often ignore the value of apologizing, then all can agree that you are becoming a toxic person. It is problematic because this attitude significantly sabotages relationships and social connections. When you don’t think you need to say sorry even if you have done something wrong, you miss out on understanding others. That attitude makes people want to stay away from you. With that, you deprive yourself of emotional and mental growth.

Issues Are Flooding Everywhere

Always bringing drama to the table is a significant red flag of becoming a toxic individual. These include the habit of spreading rumors and starting fights within the group. When you think that telling grandiose stories are more important than your friends and family’s feelings, then you are in trouble. You can say that the results of those actions will not matter. But the consistency of the habit of hurting the ones you love and leaving people behind is the worst attitude someone would ever have. If you only focus on what you feel, need, and want, you will never deserve to have it all. There is no chance people will like you, stand up for you, and continue to love you without regret.

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Too Dependent On Social Media

You probably feel great when a lot of people like your photos and posts on Instagram and Facebook. Psychology believes that it has become one of the great contributors of self-confidence. This was also mentioned in Babble and SheKnows. However, when your self-image becomes a top priority than being emotionally and mentally present, it becomes an issue. It makes you toxic because you begin to rely on an audience validation due to its social media ego boost effect. The idea of that is you become dependent on what other people say. You begin to focus more on what others tell you to do rather than making critical decisions for yourself. You lose control.

If you believe these traits are becoming yours, then pause, think, and evaluate.

Couples Therapy (Recommended Even For New Couples!)

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Couples therapy is now the foreseen solution for marital problems. It is now being used as an intervention tool not only by regular people but celebrities and personalities as well. Even Kristen Bell, the star of the movie “Frozen” is also into couples’ therapy with her husband. That’s because they don’t want to develop mental health issues like anxiety, depression, and more.

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